Did you know there is a town in Russia where the mayor bought every citizen a book. This book is “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield.
Author of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Jack Canfield, and his million dollar bestselling book, The Success Principles(TM) - 10th Anniversary Edition: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. One of the most interesting things you don’t know about him, apart from authoring, Chicken soup for the Soul is that he created the movie “The Secret” - Scientists, authors and philosophers propose the secret to leading a happy and successful life.
This is my summarization of an amazing book that has changed many lives. It is a way of thinking that I’m not sure many have or CAN DO. I mean really, to accept things in your life either before, during or after, as YOUR 100% responsibility.
To further explain, let’s break down SOME of Canfield’s advice:
#1 – You have to take 100% responsibility for your life.
The events in your life creates a response which equals and outcome. According to Jack Canfield in his book “The Success Principles” – all blame is a WASTE OF TIME. You will never become successful if you continue to blame someone or something for your lack of success.
If you are going to be a winner, you must acknowledge the truth—it is you who took the actions, thought the thoughts, created the feelings, and made the choices that got you to where you now are. It was you!
This pretty much sums it up. To accept full responsibility is daunting.
#2 You have to stop complaining.
Oh goodness. I complain about myself all day in my head, let alone others. According to Canfield, people only complain about things they can do something about. What? He says we (you and me) don’t complain about things we have no power over. Hmmm….like I guess I don’t complain about the leaves turning green but I sure do complain about my weight. But wait, what about when I complain about my husband not helping me more.
Does this mean I need to find another partner? Maybe it means I need to discuss it with him and highlight the areas I need help with, not areas he needs to change.
He says, learn to replace complaining with making requests and taking action that will achieve YOUR desired outcomes.
#3 Who you hang out with is who you become, dump the Debbie downers.
You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Surround yourself with a group you want to be like and learn from. Find a mentor, most people don’t mind mentoring someone who asks. Watch videos, read books, on those that are successful and or have the accomplishments you want to achieve. Find someone who has done something you want to do, whatever it is, everyone who has ever been successful has left clue. Be your investigator. Find the clues, learn them.
#4 Most people don’t know how to forgive – and forgiveness is key!
How do you forgive:
- Acknowledge your anger, your feelings, your sadness
- Take responsibility by either acknowledging your part but also acknowledging what you want out of it
- State what you want from the experience
- Let it go
#5 Speak with impeccability
Speak from a place of integrity, love and with intention to first, lift yourself up, and then others. Don’t put yourself down, no negative self-talk.
Studies show, when someone puts themselves down, it actually effects the brain and it has been proven with neuroscience that brain cells actually die with negative energy.
Water has memory. Your body is made up of 95% water. You are prescribing the future by describing the present.
What do people do who are successful, they speak as if everything is success and acting like everything is perfect.
Anything you say with the words “I am” your subconscious will take as a command. You think your describing it but you are actually prescribing it.
Negative self-talk makes you unhappy. Period. Your thoughts are a CHOICE. No matter what, if your wife is cheating on you, your parents are mean to you, you’ve lost your job….you beliefs are a CHOICE. In order to do this, you need to become conscious.
How do you change your thinking?
If you read books, hang out with positive people, listen to videos, podcasts, surround yourself with things that uplift you eventually it will help you change your beliefs and your life transforms.
At least five times a day appreciate something. Appreciate people, your life, something little, your pet, the refrigerator…..develop an attitude of gratitude.
If you express gratitude for what you have you develop an attitude of appreciation.
A life of abundance is focusing on what you have. It says to the world, I have enough, and the reality is when you have enough the world gives you more.
Take five minutes, EVERY DAY, walk around your house, and just start appreciating everything. The television, the couch, the people who made these, the inventors who created them, the builders who built your home, the water that is fresh.
#7 Take care of yourself, Invest in yourself
You must spend more to make more. This includes investing in yourself. A lot of people are afraid to risk “taking action”. Unless you invest, you can have no reward.
Embrace change or it will wash over you in a bad way. You’re either going to flow with change or get trampled. You need to pay attention, stay on top of the trends, see them coming and try to get ahead of it as opposed to being overwhelmed by it.
Digital age is an example. You must learn how to play this game. Research, educate yourself, invest time learning from other people. Invest finances that lead you to growth. It takes money to make money.
You will automatically feel resistance. Its natural.
#8 Time management – take care of the most important things first.
If you have a new goal and/or new habit you want to accomplish, do it first thing in the morning.
Here is an example:
Meditate for about 20 minutes, visualize for 20 minutes (what you want to accomplish), read affirmations, 3-4 minute gratitude, exercise, eat a health breakfast, begin work.
Here is a technique called a daily review:
Ask your higher self to show you or lead you to your goal. Close your eyes and visualize something that you have done in the past, and reimagine it the way you wanted to do it or should have done it.
You can read more from this incredible book....or read on different subjects with this same approach. Jack canfield has several youtube videos. How to Break an Addiction in 30 Days, 6 Steps to Making your Dreams Come True, 10 Rules for Success
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